Help The Fat Man

Why is it that every time we see an overweight person, we assume they’re looking for advice on losing weight?

I’m overweight and quite aware of the fact. I also know the reason for it and what I should be doing about it. In my case for example, I tended to snack heavily, had a mindset issue which caused me to hoard food and finally I ate like a maniac whenever stressed. The solution therefore is to recognise the root of the problem and gradually work towards resolving it. Likewise, most overweight people are quite aware of the reason for their condition.

Now, one would assume the normal thinking person knows this and would behave normally. It doesn’t happen like that most of the time unfortunately. Most people who aren’t overweight seem to feel instantly superior when meeting a chap who’s overweight.  For example, I know this chap who insists on making a few smart comments every time we meet. The last time this happened, I politely asked him if I should comment on his being a midget, his inability to write or speak one line of grammatically correct English, his tendency towards 6 inch elevator shoes or his puking for two days after consuming 30ml of alcohol. We didn’t meet after that for obvious reasons.

[quote]Remember if you’re not being made fun of, it’s because people are being nice to you, not because there’s nothing about you that can be mocked.[/quote]

I’m wondering what makes people oblivious to their own shortcomings when selecting targets for their peculiar brand of humour. Have you noticed that the same chaps feel totally insulted if you get equally personal? I mean, this chap I know flew totally off the handle when I pointed out the number of links in his browser ‘Favourites’ that pointed to websites for penile enhancement.

Now, for a moment, let’s assume some people are fat because they’re just too lazy to do anything about it, or perhaps it doesn’t bother them. Then why, I wonder, do people feel the need to get all judgemental on him or her? I regularly get advice on how to lose weight by this chap who has severe communication issues, types like a retard and hasn’t heard of punctuation.

Being fat isn’t necessarily due to over-eating. The root cause could be a medical condition, personal problems or any one of a hundred reasons, all of which aren’t really anyone else’s business. Perhaps some people just gain weight randomly. Is discrimination or mockery the answer?

As is evident from my very personal remarks above, all of us can easily get quite judgemental about others and all of us definitely have things we’re sensitive about – things that can easily be made into a big public joke. Think of how your car is maintained, your clothes, the size of your nose, teeth, bitten fingernails, smoking and pitted skin among other possible areas. Remember if you’re not being made fun of, it’s because people are being nice to you, not because there’s nothing about you that can be mocked.

So… if you’re the type who tends to rib people about their weight, even in jest, remember it’s just one comment to you and the 27th one of the day for the person in question. Conversely, if you happen to be the target of such comments, just let fly.

Sid Khullar

Sid Khullar is the founder of Chef at Large, a blog that began in 2007. He enjoys cooking, writing, travelling and technology in addition to being a practising Freemason. Health and wellness is a particularly passionate focus. Sid prefers the company of food and animals to most humans, and can be reached at